Today I really wish I was Jewish.
I love the high holidays, and believe Judaism has some of the most potent and powerful celebrations. Today is Yom Kippur- the holiest day of the year in Judaism. To greet someone for Yom Kippur you can say “G’mar Hatima Tova” which means “may you be sealed in the Book of Life.”
Even if you are not Jewish, the concept of taking a day to fast and reflect on your year- atone for any wrongs done to others, and to be forgiven, is a very powerful thing. There is real wisdom in this sacred holiday.
As is quoted in the Chabad.org site:
“We are all human, and we occasionally slip. Is there anyone you may have offended or otherwise hurt? Go ahead and ask for their forgiveness. Are you carrying any grudges? Now is the time to sincerely and wholeheartedly let them go.”
And it makes me wonder, for all of you who have been caring for your aging parents, if you were to contemplate any “slip ups,” how often is it just that we just feel guilty at our actions that came out of just being plain old tired?
Many of you are burned out because of over caregiving, and feel guilty because you we are supposed to be there and just couldn’t, or snapped at your loved one because you were just exhausted, frustrated and even a little scared not knowing what to do.
Sometimes you may even be angry, even though of course you want to be giving them your time and attention, and they are frustrated too.
What if we could just forgive ourselves? What if forgiving yourself was a high holy day you gave yourself once a year? A chance to atone, forgive and move on.
What would that mean for you?
Something to contemplate.
May you be sealed in the book of Life.
Check out our trailer video below from Rabbi Address who works with people of all faiths to help understand the impact of caregiving.
PS- How could forgiving yourself help you move on in your life right now? Drop me a note and let’s chat.