Chicken Soup Author’s Message: Live Your Priority with Self Care

One of the greatest challenges busy adults share is making time to take proper care of ourselves. The demands of life never go away, and many in the 50+ category face complex and time sensitive issues at work, home, managing children, or grandchildren; as well as occasionally caring for aging parents.

LeAnn Thieman is the author of 13 “Chicken Soup for the Soul” books – including; Chicken Soup for the Caregiver’s Soul, and most recently, Chicken Soup for the Soul: Inspiration for Nurses. She is a sought after public speaker, and I was lucky enough to share a chat with her this week.

LeAnn stressed that no one can live the life we are meant to live if we don’t attend to basic self care. She highlighted a great acronym: “Care 4 Me,” as a simple, soothing and easy tool to implement each and every day. By caring for ourselves, we are better able to focus on our mission in life and “living our priority.”

Enjoy our conversation above.

CARE 4 ME acronym:

C:  Connect with your Higher Power.   Spend 15 minutes a day in prayer, meditation or reflection. Attend services or gatherings if you can, and participate in that community.

A:  Ask for your “juice.”   If in your quiet time, you realize that your life is out of balance, physically, mentally or spiritually, make a plan for what you need to achieve better balance, then ask for it (kindly), from yourself, your family and your workplace.

R:  Rest and sleep.   We would never deprive a child of sleep, because we know it makes them sick and grumpy, yet we often do that to ourselves. Turn off TV and technology and get 8 hours of sleep per night.

E:  Eat right.   Consume the quantity and quality of food you know your body needs.

 4:  Four times a day: Breathe!   For 15 minutes, 3-4 times a day, breathe slow deep and easy to releases stress, tension and endorphins.

M: Mind your mind.  Implement your mental balance tools. Practice positive thinking and visualization, knowing it can change your body and your mind. Laugh 400 times a day, like children! Forgive yourself and someone else.

E:  Exercise 3 times a week   Walk 45 minutes a day, even in 15 minute increments.  Incorporate exercise into your everyday life. Mow your lawn, garden, play ball with kids, vacuum to rock and roll!

Leann stressed taking a week to try out this new motto:

“Today I will also Care 4 me,  and truly live my priority.”

Hope you enjoyed! Feel free to share a few of your simple tips to keep balance in a hectic world. Hop on our Facebook page, and be sure to sign up for our mailing list for upcoming announcements and goodies. 🙂

Chicken Soup for the Caregiver’s Soul
Chicken Soup for the Soul: Inspiration for Nurses


Solar Eclipse Creates Community Magic

Welcome to this week’s video blog! So glad you are here.

Did you make it to the eclipse? Half of the Age Without Borders team made the effort. Judy watched from Colorado, Brigit and her daughter Isabel were in Michigan, and Kari made the trek to Wyoming.


It was exalted. It was rare, and the totality zone was awe inspiring. Facebook was flooded with images of people with kooky glasses staring at the heavens. Humanity needed the respite. Part of what made it great was sharing the experience with scores of strangers – all coming together for a few hours; with a goal as simple as gazing at the sun. Human beings require such gatherings now and then to feel secure, connected, and part of something that binds us together, and enshrouds us in a shared purpose. Social isolation is one of the greatest health risks of our time.

As both an aging and community enthusiast, Kari reflects on how important it is to attend to our relationships: starting within ourselves, and expanding outwards to our family, friends, co-workers, and participating in collective experiences like an eclipse (or a race, a civic march, or dance festival). Enjoy!

Now it’s your turn! Are you attending to the various circles of community in your life, and have you experienced a collective gathering that inspired you? Share it with us in the comments below, and on our Facebook page! We can’t wait to hear.

How Do You Perceive the Timeline Of Your Life?

How Do You Perceive the Timeline Of Your Life

This week, I had the great pleasure to speak about this with Dorian Mintzer, M.S.W., Ph.D. She is a retirement coach, author, owner of Revolutionize Retirement and an adjunct professor teaching a “Multidisciplinary  Introduction to Gerontology” class at Regis College in Weston, Massachusetts. She was kind enough to assemble a few of her diverse students together – ranging in age from young twenties to early 50’s. Our crew included Karen from El Salvador, Yunez from Turkey,  Adamnatu from Sierra Leone, several American students as well as Alan O’Hare, Ph.D., one of the guest speakers for the course.

How we perceive aging is vital.  “What I’ve found in my clinical work and teaching is that often people embrace whatever are the prevalent stereotypes about aging–generally with an ageist lens–and therefore don’t want to think ahead since “aging” is fraught with fears about all of the negatives about getting older,” said Mintzer.

“Certainly there are many changes that occur as we age, positive and negative, but it’s not all “down hill” unless you believe it is. I find that people are surprised when they learn that by the time you’re 65 is less about genes (about 30%) and more ( about 70%) about things you can “control”–such as nutrition, exercising your body and brain, spirituality, meaningful relationships, connection, engagement and finding purpose and meaning in life. With this paradigm shift it can become less scary to think about getting older.”

Mintzer offers a Boomers and Beyond Special Interest Group (SIG) for Interdisciplinary Professionals once a month to bring together people interested in positive aging.  Revolutionize your Retirement Interview with Expert’s Series is the 4th Tuesday of each month (except December) at 12:00 noon Eastern time. Sign-up each month, 7 -10 days before the call, at 

Studies have shown that most people can only imagine about 5-10 years into the future. If you think back, to age 12, for example, being 18 or 20 was really grown up. When you were 25, being 35 was “old” and 50 was inconceivable. We were never taught to plan ahead and anticipate the many stages of a potential 100 year life. Today, many can expect to enjoy another 20 to 30 years of active living AFTER age 65. How do we expand our minds to embrace, celebrate and prepare?

Now it’s your turn! Leave us a comment in the box below, or up on our Facebook page.  How do you perceive the years ahead? Can you see your life through to 100? What would it look like? We love to hear your ideas and stories!


A Different View of Aging  When Bonus Years Are Added to Your Life

By, Judy Rough

My perspective on aging might be a bit different from others. When I was 47 years old I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I had 6 tumors in my right breast and the treatment was a bilateral mastectomy and chemotherapy. Due to the fact that I was alive in an era where these medical advances were available to me, I continue to live 14 years later at this point.

Living is very different now versus pre-cancer life. I have painful neuropathy in my feet every day for the last 14 years. Many of my internal organs have not always been happy post-chemo. In medical terms, I am probably not considered a “healthy” person. When it comes to my emotional and psychological health, I am in tip top shape.  I maintain a positive attitude and luckily I can move freely and easily.

If I lived at another time or in another place, if I had inadequate medical care, if I had a terrible attitude, if I lacked a fantastic support system, and if other negative random circumstances had been a part of my story; my life could have ended at 47 years old.

For the last 14 years, I have experienced my children graduating from college, my daughter getting married, my children gainfully employed, 2 granddaughters, a son-in-law, a new job, caregiving for my mother, my husband’s career success and his retirement, enriching friendships, travel to Italy, personal and professional rewards. These bonus years bring me great joy and have caused me to focus on the pleasure I get from having gray hair, older skin with new markings and texture, aches and pains, a great mind, profound influence in my society, and continued curiosity that motivates me daily to keep learning and applying the knowledge to leave the world better than it was when I came into it.

On the day I returned from the doctor after being diagnosed with cancer, my husband was driving me home after our appointment, an image was imprinted in my brain. We were turning the corner on to our street headed home and there was a couple about to cross the street. They were holding hands and both had perfectly white hair. I pointed to them and said to my husband, “I want to be like them”. I was not finished. I wanted the great privilege of growing older.

Now that I am considered an “older”, I show up with confidence knowing that I as well as my peers have a lot to contribute. I work constantly on changing my own ageist beliefs and I stand up to others (politely) who are using “elder speak” or displaying ageist behaviors. I will show by example and express with my voice that ageism, racism, sexism, homophobia, anti-faith behaviors, and negative judgments of any kind are not acceptable and not tolerated.

I have the privilege of these bonus years that brought me to being an “older” and I proudly display the marks of my years.

Judy Rough is on the Executive Team at Age Without Borders, and is the Senior Director at the Society of Certified Senior Advisors is the premier membership organization certifying and educating professionals who serve older adults.


Ashton Applewhite Kicks Ageism in the Face

Ashton Applewhite Ageism TedTalk

Even though it doesn’t always feel like it, our society has made dramatic improvements in our understanding and tolerance of one another. Our ability to accept others of different races, ethnicities, sexual orientation or spiritual preference is far from perfect, but at a macro level – we are evolving.

However, while most forms of discrimination are towards one sector of society, there is an insidious type of discrimination every single person on Earth shares. All of us are going to get old; and we hold a powerful collective prejudice around aging. The accepted idea that “getting older” generally sucks, and leads to decline, unhappiness and misery is a myth. (Actually, studies show we are happier later in life.)

No matter the color of your skin, who you love, or how you worship – we are all subjected to the pervasive impacts of ageism. Have you ever found yourself saying, “I’m too old,” or, “I’m having a senior moment,” or thinking, “What is she doing wearing that at her age?” or deciding, “I could never pursue a degree or new profession at my age?If you recognize any of these warning signs, you are limiting your life for no reason.

In my last blog, I wrote about how I fretted needlessly about reaching certain milestones of aging. Turning 39, 49, and then 50 were “Freak Out” years – until I met a few ageism activists like Ashton Applewhite and Dr. Bill Thomas, who blew my limited mindset wide open. Once I started exploring my own inner ageist attitudes, I experienced dramatic and widespread epiphanies. I began to see examples of ageism everywhere I looked, and saw how destructive it can be.

Ashton has become one of my mentors, and colleagues. I am also lucky enough to consider her a dear friend. She has been thinking about ageism for a long time: deeply, widely and broadly. She has brought her fiery spunk to forcing this topic to the surface. Her book, “This Chair Rocks- A Manifesto Against Ageism,” was my favorite book last year. I gave copies everywhere. Ashton has been blasting through the white noise, and forcing the conversation with her book, New York Times articles, and online forum, “Yo is this Ageist?” She asserts,

“Aging is living.  We are all going to get older, and most of us are scared stiff at the prospect. Yet, ageism is a global human rights issue.”

As I fine tune my own perceptions of aging, I STILL ask Ashton if she thinks something is “ageist.” We are so oblivious to the societal norms, sometimes ageism or ageist attitudes are hidden, subterranean even.

With over 76 million baby boomers currently blasting through an unprecedentedly healthy and vibrant second adulthood, many easily living to age 100, there is no better time than now to chuck the ageist barriers we share, inside and out.

If you only watch one TEDtalk this year, watch this one. Eleven minutes of fire and brimstone truth.

So, let’s get a fiery aging and ageism conversation going in the comments below and on our Facebook page. Have you confronted any ageist attitudes in yourself? What were they and how did they show up? How have you been impacted by an ageist society? Let us know!


How a “Freak Out” About Getting Older Changed My Life

Welcome to Kari’s new weekly video-blog (Vlog) series.

I will be focusing on breaking down inner biases we have about getting older, no matter where we are on the timeline of life, and having some fun increasing our “aging literacy.”  I am thrilled to begin, and have some incredible special guests in the cue for upcoming posts.

Question #1: Have you ever had a “freak out” at hitting a certain birthday or a certain age? 

Our fears or dread about getting older is nothing more than self discrimination. Society has taught us to believe surpassing a certain age means leaving the “prime of life” behind.  Ageism is real. It is rampant, deceptive, and buying into it hurts our experience of life, our longevity and our global society.

It is quite possible many of you reading this will live to be 100 – so turning 50 or 65 or 71 means another 30 to 50 years of living. In today’s video, I share my “Turning 49 Freak Out Story,” and explore how learning from top thinkers in the aging industry turned a possible “midlife crisis” into one of the greatest gifts I could have asked for.

Embracing this “New Age of Aging” has completely reshaped how I view the world, transformed my attitude about the future, shifted how I parent my kids, and has helped me to get rid of useless cultural paradigms that were holding me back.

Now it’s your turn! Tell me your best “Freak Out” aging story.

What age or birthday really got to you? Did it become a trigger or catalyst towards something new? Drop a comment below, and hop onto our Facebook page to share your story!