How Do You Perceive the Timeline Of Your Life?

This week, I had the great pleasure to speak about this with Dorian Mintzer, M.S.W., Ph.D. She is a retirement coach, author, owner of Revolutionize Retirement and an adjunct professor teaching a “Multidisciplinary  Introduction to Gerontology” class at Regis College in Weston, Massachusetts. She was kind enough to assemble a few of her diverse students together – ranging in age from young twenties to early 50’s. Our crew included Karen from El Salvador, Yunez from Turkey,  Adamnatu from Sierra Leone, several American students as well as Alan O’Hare, Ph.D., one of the guest speakers for the course.

How we perceive aging is vital.  “What I’ve found in my clinical work and teaching is that often people embrace whatever are the prevalent stereotypes about aging–generally with an ageist lens–and therefore don’t want to think ahead since “aging” is fraught with fears about all of the negatives about getting older,” said Mintzer.

“Certainly there are many changes that occur as we age, positive and negative, but it’s not all “down hill” unless you believe it is. I find that people are surprised when they learn that by the time you’re 65 is less about genes (about 30%) and more ( about 70%) about things you can “control”–such as nutrition, exercising your body and brain, spirituality, meaningful relationships, connection, engagement and finding purpose and meaning in life. With this paradigm shift it can become less scary to think about getting older.”

Mintzer offers a Boomers and Beyond Special Interest Group (SIG) for Interdisciplinary Professionals once a month to bring together people interested in positive aging.  Revolutionize your Retirement Interview with Expert’s Series is the 4th Tuesday of each month (except December) at 12:00 noon Eastern time. Sign-up each month, 7 -10 days before the call, at  www.revolutionizeretirement.com. 

Studies have shown that most people can only imagine about 5-10 years into the future. If you think back, to age 12, for example, being 18 or 20 was really grown up. When you were 25, being 35 was “old” and 50 was inconceivable. We were never taught to plan ahead and anticipate the many stages of a potential 100 year life. Today, many can expect to enjoy another 20 to 30 years of active living AFTER age 65. How do we expand our minds to embrace, celebrate and prepare?

Now it’s your turn! Leave us a comment in the box below, or up on our Facebook page.  How do you perceive the years ahead? Can you see your life through to 100? What would it look like? We love to hear your ideas and stories!

 

4 Replies to “How Do You Perceive the Timeline Of Your Life?”

  1. I loved the diversity of cultures and opinions reflected in the comments from Dori Mintzer’s class. What great conversations they must have had in her Gerontology class!

    My timeline image is of an 85-year-old beech tree. The trunk is covered with warts and is scarred but also enhanced by people’s carvings. The branches are spread wide, a couple bent down to the ground where they have generated some new growth. Long strands of leaves hang down, creating a canopy under which people can sit in the shade and read a book or just look at the natural life around them.

  2. I have been learning from Dori’s webinars since 2012 and enjoyed Age Without Borders very much. They have been incredibly helpful as I have navigated an unexpected job loss, the death of my father, and helping my mother (with my brothers’ and sisters-in-law’s help) over four years through her loss and moving into assisted living this past week. I highly recommend those webinars! As for myself, I face the future realizing that I must take better care of myself after a very stressful year. Although I could live into my nineties, I need to do all the things I’ve dreamed of NOW, and then create new dreams. I want to be like the old oak trees we have in the South, draped in moss, still alive, still growing.

  3. I am enjoying life to the full taking care of my granddaughter who lives withi us along with my daughter who is a single mom, serving in my church in meaningful ways, involved in Bible Study Fellowship with groups of women for 8 years, attend church and Sunday Bible Study with my husband, in a Care Group since year 2,000. At age 76 life is very meaningful. These are some of the best years of my life. My body is slowing down, but my inner self is being renewed day by day.

    2nd Corinthians 4:16-17 says:
    Therefore we do not lose heart, though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed Day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, for what is seen is temporary, but what is not seen is eternal.

    I am a person who has faith in Jesus Christ who is my Lord and Savior who died on the cross for my sins and took the punishment I deserved upon Himself. By the gift of His grace, I am forgiven and promised eternal life with Him.

    Therefore I am a very thankful, grateful person. God is Sovereign and I trust Him with my life. My times are in His hands.

    Henrie Conway

  4. I am enjoying life to the full taking care of my granddaughter who lives with us along with my daughter who is a single mom, serving in my church in meaningful ways, involved in Bible Study Fellowship with groups of women for 8 years, attend church and Sunday Bible Study with my husband and in a Care Group since year 2,000.

    We traveled for 10 years while my daughter was a flight attendant, but stopped after 9/11 when she quit after some of her favorite flying partners were killed. We are now not traveling but rejoicing over investing in our granddaughter and all her activities.

    At age 76 life is very meaningful. These are some of the best years of my life. My body is slowing down, but my inner self is being renewed day by day.

    2nd Corinthians 4:16-17 says:
    Therefore we do not lose heart, though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed Day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, for what is seen is temporary, but what is not seen is eternal.

    I am a person who has faith in Jesus Christ who is my Lord and Savior who died on the cross for my sins and took the punishment I deserved upon Himself. By the gift of His grace, I am forgiven and promised eternal life with Him.

    Therefore I am a very thankful, grateful person. God is Sovereign and I trust Him with my life. My times are in His hands.

    Henrie Conway

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